Women empowerment. How powerful and intense; the phrase sounds! Almost like Beethoven’s music, sounds heavenly. But then, shake up a little… and I started thinking what does it actually mean to women like me in a day-to-day life? In relations and in interactions?
The dictionary meaning equally emphasizes on giving authority to women on their rights. Sounds great on paper. Yes! Indeed. But what change will it bring in to the daily lives of women folks? Because most of us, even in so called modern times hesitate to assert ourselves, forget about empowerment.
This debate was brewing within me since long. How an empowered woman feels? How she conducts herself? What changes in her life?
One day, suddenly, out of nowhere a thought stuck me. I think I got what it is get empowered. What it is to feel empowered. Why restrict the empowerment to women alone.. men need empowerment too… in different senses.
What changed in my life that made me feel empowered all of a sudden?! Nothing much actually:) The routine remains the same- lunch box packing, getting my tiny tot ready for school, household chores, taking care of the family members…yes, almost everything remains the same except that I have started working, as a part time blogger.
But that is it. My responsibilities, priorities, round the clock chores nothing changed.
I have been a working woman before marriage and kid happened. I have lived independently almost all of my life. But never felt I am empowered. This reverse thought got me thinking … financial independence in NO KEY to empowerment! It helps you do many more things in life but can not guarantee the empowerment.
How many women out there are abused, tortured, insulted despite being financially independent! I don’t want to use the word victim. I hate that feeling of helplessness….yeeeks.. How hopeless life becomes when you feel victim.
Then what is it that empowers us? What is it to feel empowered? Back to dock??? Yeah..
To me empowerment dawned in the form of feeling. In the form of awareness. Awareness leads to confidence. I feel confident. I feel capable and free to take decisions. Free of pressing societal expectations, free of my own fears and prejudices, free of my own expectations of myself. Now, THAT IS EMPOWERMENT! Isn’t it???
Empowerment is a feeling.
As long as we ( irrespective of gender and status) feel victimized, as long as we feel subjugated to others and our own whims and fancies or egos, we can not be empowered. Ever!
No one can empower us but ourselves. Taking some pain and time to cultivate awareness, understanding and confidence goes a long and enthralling way to empower ourselves.
I feel empowered, so I am empowered. Feel. Get everything within you to feel that confidence in yourself, undertake tasks that boost your self esteem; however miniscule that step that is.. take it. First step always counts.
I am happy I discovered this rocket science;-) My level of self understanding has elevated. My interaction with others ( family, friends, frenemies, work partners) is on the different level now. And yes, that is how it reflects when you feel empowered. Do everything in your power to come alive, stay put in trying times, trust the loved ones and of course the obvious – Trust yourself to win over any obstacle.
I have the right to live dignified life. I have the right to chose my spouse. I have the right to decide when I’ll start the family. I have the right to decide what I’ll cook for dinner. I have the right to skip that oh-so-important party of some frenemies, I have the right to decide what I’ll do in my free time. The list goes on…. Trivial matters??? You don’t know, but we, ladies, are fighting for these rights since ages.
If these things change, then that I call empowerment. For empowerment is no politician’s surprise Diwali gift. It is the gift we give to ourselves. We empower ourselves. Lend a helping hand or a understanding heart to someone who is trying to get empowered. Build a community that helps and nurtures. That is in the truest sense empowerment.
Can any politician do it? Can any guru do it? Can any one wealthiest person on this earth do it?? No. We can do it. Let’s empower ourselves and others around us. Let’s live respectably and let others do the same.
So feel. It all starts with a feeling. Get empowered.
Edit 1: I see so many fabulous ladies taking up their passion in pursuit of fulfillment. That’s simply amazing for the spark lying dormant for many years make you jump up and moreover give one a sense of purpose, a sense of being in-charge.
Now, that’s empowerment! Freedom to choose what’s right for our physical, mental and emotional well being.
In pursuit of higher planes we realize the importance of today and the NOW. Balancing comes seamlessly as we multi task and prioritize. The feeling of being in-charge of our lives itself is so freeing 🙂
Can any outsider make us feel empowered? Can anyone gift us empowerment?
Answer is ourselves. We are responsible to get and feel empowered. It comes from within.
Let’s get empowered. Let’s build a supportive community that encourages empowerment; which does not fear empowering people because that would threaten their authority.